It's been 4 months, and the chaos is gone.

I wanted to thank you for your help, I absolutely love your email programme! it set me on a path to understanding the reasons behind my use and ultimately get sober. I now enjoy satisfying sober sex like I used to. 

Without your clear, detached, objective questions, I wouldn't have had the tools to remind myself that everything I do is a choice, and understanding my decisions was key to stopping certain behaviours. 

I've since also quit alcohol and chems. It's been a gift to myself to be who I am with others, without the need to sedate or medicate my behaviours, my needs, and my demands. It's been 4 months, and the chaos is gone. 

You may have saved my life.





I wanted to point out how fantastic the email programme is.

At first I thought it would be a poor substitute to a face to face service but it's actually been amazingly helpful and your team has been absolutely brilliant. I think in the modern world where we communicate a lot via email and WhatsApp etc this programme actually works really well and becomes a daily healthy habit. It's been liberating to unpacked loads of emotions, thoughts and feelings that I've rarely been able to talk so openly with someone. It's also been healing to explore my chemsex journey from different angles plus extremely helpful with the various tips and techniques. I feel less alone, and confident to continued my sober journey.





Thank you for allowing me to join your daily email programme.

You are great human beings, and you can be very proud of yourselves with the dedication you just showed with me... You don't even know me, and I am very touched that you took time EVERY DAY to read and write me questions related to my use. Just for this kindness, I think I will always remember it, and I am very grateful toward you. It actually does give me confidence and a baguage for chemsex work. 

I have all this material to work on & I do feel that I kind have the power to deal with it rather than ruminating on the problem without a solution. THANKS FOR THIS!




I don't lie when I say that your email programme has saved my life.

I have been struggling because of chemsex for years, using on a daily basis for the last two, and for someone like me, getting weekly support never worked because the most I could achieve was not to use for 3 days in a row. Giving me the opportunity to be in touch with your team every day, identifying obstacles, setting up strategies, identifying my resources and reinforcing them, planning ahead and listening to me and helping me with your reflections has made the difference. I think the combination of getting weekly support from my keyworker and getting daily support from the email programme is what has made the difference. 

I cannot thank you enough for the work you have done in assisting me to remain free of drugs. Your advise sticks with me to this day and anytime I get a craving I remember it and it helps me avoid taking drugs. The compassion and respect shown by you and your team is invaluable, I will be always grateful.




The best help I've ever had, it gave me a platform via the email programme and through the 1-1 session to finally speak freely about my troubles,

which then in turn allowed the controlling chems team to offer practical advice/techniques to control/stop using chems. I am now connecting with a therapist via the team to explore my relationship with sex, which I think is going to be the final door to unlock for me. Ultimately the team made me feel understood, human and not to be ashamed - they are literally lifesavers. From the very start I felt at ease, welcomed and knew I could benefit from the support. Forever grateful to the Controlling Chemsex team!




I couldn't think of a way to make it more effective - it was so helpful to me!  

The email stabilisation programme is a great way to find, think about and plan action to overcome obstacles - doing this on a daily basis really reinforces it as a habit, thereby building your confidence. I couldn't think of a way to make it more effective - it was so helpful to me!  

I think the email programme is such a modern way for people to communicate (sadly world of phones) but also it becomes a bit of a journalling exercise which allows you to empty your mind but also reflect on the insightful responses and question Ian asks.



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