CHEMSEX AND SEX-FOR-REWARD

Here there is a global map of laws which may impact how readers interpret parts of the content: https://www.nswp.org/sex-work-laws-map 

 

ESTABLISHING BOUNDARIES: 

• Outline your boundaries at the start: if a partner crosses one, what others might they cross?
• "The Buddy System" is the practice of you telling a friend where you are and your hookup's details with the expectation of you calling back once you are in a safe environment, otherwise they will travel to the location to check if you are ok. This is often done so the hookup is aware a buddy is looking out for you. There may be codewords meaning something is wrong and to call for help.
• When offering drug or chem sessions with hookups, it's important to establish boundaries with yourself to reduce it affecting your home or work life.
• Separate times you get rewards from your partying, such weekdays vs weekends, or set days you keep to. Or only using chems in your personal life OR when you are meeting a hookup-for-reward.
• Some hookups offering reward are interested in trying 'sober sex confidence sessions' wanting substance use trigger-free intimacy while in recovery. Could you provide it instead?
• Be cautious when partying with first-time hookups, everyone reacts differently to substances.
• Consider only accepting rewards as money or gifts instead of substances which help with quality control on the chems.
• Be aware of and avoid new substances on the scene when with a hookup for reward.
• Recognize and leave triggering environments or networks to avoid dependence on substances building up.
• Telling yourself "I can handle it, others don't know their limits" is how all habitual use is rationalized.
• Regularly ask yourself, “Does seeking support trigger feelings of identity anxiety, more than pride in that self-awareness?” If anxiety to explore support goes unchecked, what could prevent chems in your life becoming unmanageable?
• If you are expected to climax, consider practicing how you might fake it or an alternative if your body was unable to do so.
• Plan ahead what you would do and would say no to if your body were not to perform during a hookup. E.g., Having an alternative lined up redirecting focus without that body pressure.
• If you are given free chems, ensure they know it is a gift, without you then owing them something in return. Outside of kink roleplay, feeling owned can lead to depression.

ANTI-SPIKING TIPS:

• Bring your own chems and drink, make small amounts so if it could have been spiked out of sight you can throw it out and remake it.
• Don’t leave drinks or chems unattended. If it happens, replace them as potentially spiked, regardless of your gender. Recall the UK’s worst perpetrator of this targeted random men.
• Watch out for non-consensual blowback kisses (blowing Tina smoke into your mouth).
• Watch out for substances on their bum or genitals placed there to affect you non-consensually.
• Bring a few types of your own lube, so a hookup can't use a preference to get you using theirs. They could be spiked, throwing off how much chems you are aware of taking.

 

CHEMS GOING WRONG TIPS

• If a hookup experiences psychosis, communicate calmly and clearly, take them to a calm environment away from the sex setting with TV /music turned off. Call 999 if necessary.
• Carry Naloxone as a precaution against overdosing on opioids (such as heroin or fentanyl).
• If a hookup overdoses, don't leave them alone. Walk them around, keep them awake if unconscious, put them in the recovery position, call for help.
• The presence of chems, or hookup-for-reward situations (most aren't illegal) does NOT mean ambulances report it to the police or other services.
• Struggle to find sex exciting without the use of chems, but currently need the extra money from hookup-for-reward on chems sessions? Consider trying to earn and save enough to enable doing it without chems to get your body used to how it is again, even if for a week or so. The more familiar the feeling is again, the more reliable your body will be.
• Explore the chems harm-reduction advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

SAFER SEX TIPS:

• “PrEP” is a pill routine that people who don't live with HIV can use to prevent HIV acquisition. It is a useful failsafe for anyone hooking up frequently. It is available free on the NHS and you can arrange to access it via your sexual health clinic.
• After exposure to HIV you can go to an A&E or sexual health clinic and ask for "PEP", a month-long course to try to reverse the new acquisition. You must start it within 72 hours of exposure, the sooner the better for chances of success.
• People living with HIV maintaining effective treatment are Undetectable, meaning their HIV cannot be passed on sexually.
• "Window Periods" refers to the time it takes before an STI exposure could react on a test result. They are unique to each test type used, impacting which hookups need notification to test and which clinics can do for you anonymously when requested.
• Maintain a record of sexual encounters and contact information for a year. This way, if you test positive for an STI later, relevant individuals can be notified to get tested. Notifications for relevant individuals go back to your previous negative result for that STI, continuing further back for the duration of the Window Period for that STI’s test type.
• "Shedding Duration" is the time after STI treatment where tests would still be reacting to the treated STI. It will affect how accurately you are aware of an STI.
• HPV vaccination ahead of exposure to different strains can prevent later need for cancer treatments of the cervix, anus, penis or throat, and can prevent genital warts. The vaccination is available to all genders on the NHS.
• Some vaccines that others just like you found useful include the Hep B vaccine, Hep A vaccine, Covid vaccine, Mpox vaccine.
• Explore the sexual health advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

LEGAL RISK TIPS (UK):

• Avoid bringing substances in exchange for reward: the law would consider you a dealer, whereby the legal risks increase hugely.
• The presence of chems or hookup-for-reward situations (most aren’t illegal) does NOT mean ambulances report it to police or other services.
• People who offer hookup-for-reward can access legal advice via the trade union "Sex Workers Union" along with gogos, porn performers, adult content-creators, professional doms, escorts, cam models & many others.
• Being in a trade union before an incident makes it simpler for the union to respond fast when needed.
• You can collectively organize in the union resisting corporate policies or laws that impact you negatively.

 

FINANCIAL RISK TIPS:

• Accepting reward upfront, potentially taking deposits to arrange time and cover travel costs reduce chances of being unrewarded.
• Budgeting is essential if partying with a hookup - keep track of how much you spent vs what you leave with. Think about how long chems would stay in your system and are you being rewarded for all that time or only e.g. for an hour?
• If you feel you need to be high to earn reward from hookups, but you spent the reward on getting high, what’s the moment when it becomes not worth doing it?
• Concerned about robbery or spending reward while high? Only bring cash you intend to use at that time, arranging rewards to be received in other ways.
• Consider bringing a stamped and addressed envelope when out partying with a hookup-for-reward, so you can store cash you don't want to use in the envelope and mail it to yourself at a postbox. Be cautious of risks of the hookup seeing your address/PObox or a mail handler taking any obvious cash envelopes.
• For online transactions such as taking deposits consider using a burner PayPal account with details you don’t mind a hookup seeing but transferring money from it to your main one for withdrawals.
• Be aware PayPal would close your account if they learn what these payments are for.
• Straight away transfer funds to a main PayPal account to avoid ‘chargeback’ robbery.
• PayPal burner accounts need to be under a threshold amount (which varies) before ID verification is requested, verifying prevents the use of other names for your security, as names appear on transactions.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer or your income level.

 

WANTING CHANGE TIPS:

• Many found it useful to be assessed for neurodivergence for advice for handling it, some neurodivergence can also affect relationships to substances e.g. ADHD is a lack of dopamine production.
• Many found it useful to access therapy to overcome anything holding them back, such as trauma, hidden fears of failure, or internalized negativity etc.
• If you keep facing rejection, consider if someone can help with your CV or cover letter, maybe AI could help with wording.
• Reverse-recruiting can apply for civilian jobs for you if it is overwhelming you, be aware it is a paid service.
• Consider finding work within your comfort zone that you can hold down while applying for or training for the jobs you really want if you're facing repeated rejection in a job search.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer, or your income level.

 

USEFUL RESOURCES:

• Sex Workers Union branch in BFAWU, Banana Milkshake, SWARM, SW Breakfasts, DecrimNowUK, ESWA, TAMPEP, davidstuart.org/care-plan, one to one support, Book: Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina.
  At your sexual health clinic you can ask to speak to a Health Advisor, who can help with your chems use queries or help you find the type of support you are looking for.

 

We want to thank JASON DOMINO very deeply for helping so much with the preparation of this document. Jason is a UK sexual health and wellbeing advocate, sex work activist and porn star. He is also a notable member of The Sex Workers Union

You can find at https://www.nswp.org/sex-work-laws-map a global map of laws which may impact how readers interpret parts of the content.

ESTABLISHING BOUNDARIES:

• Outline your boundaries at the start. If a client accidentally or deliberately crosses one, what others might they cross if left unchecked?
• When offering drug or chem sessions with clients, it's important to establish boundaries with them and to yourself, to reduce it affecting your home or work life. Alternatively, only using chems in your personal life OR when you are meeting a client.
• "The Buddy System" is the practice of you telling a friend where you are and your client's details, with the expectation of you calling back once you are in a safe environment, otherwise they will travel to the location to check if you are ok. This is often done so the client is aware a buddy is looking out for you. There may be codewords meaning that something is wrong and to call for help.
• Separate times you make money from times you party, such weekdays vs. weekends or set days you dedicate to.
• Instead of chems sessions, some offer 'sober sex confidence sessions' aiming to provide trigger-free intimacy for the many people in recovery.
• Be cautious when partying with first-time clients, everyone reacts differently to substances.
• Be aware of and avoid new substances on the scene when with a client.
• Consider only accepting payment in money instead of chems, for their quality control.
• Recognize and leave triggering environments, service provisions or networks, to avoid dependence the trigger escalating.
• Telling yourself "I can handle it, others don't know their limits" is how all habitual use is rationalized.
• Regularly ask yourself, 'Does *seeking support* trigger feelings of identity anxiety, more than pride in your self-awareness for seeking support?' If anxiety to support is unchecked, what could prevent chems in your life getting unmanageable?
• If you are expected to climax, consider practicing how you might fake it or think of an alternative if your body were unable to.
• Prepare ahead what you would do and what you would say no to; if your body were not performing for a session - e.g. having an alternative lined up to redirect focus without that body pressure.
• If you are given free chems ensure they know it is a gift, without you then owing them something in return. Outside of kink roleplay, feeling owned can lead to depression.

ANTI-SPIKING TIPS:

• Bring your own chems and drinks, make small amounts so if it could have been spiked out of sight you can throw it out and remake it.
• Don’t leave drinks or chems unattended. If it was, replace it as potentially spiked, regardless of your gender. Recall the UK’s worst perpetrator of this practice targeted random men.
• Watch out for non-consensual blowback kisses (blowing Tina smoke into your mouth).
• Watch out for substances on their bum or genitals placed there to affect you non-consensually.
• Bring a few types of your own lube, so they can't have a preference to get you using theirs, which can be spiked.

 

CHEMS GOING WRONG TIPS

• If a client experiences psychosis, communicate calmly and clearly, take them to a calm environment away from the sex setting, with TV /music turned off. Call 999 if necessary.
• Carry Naloxone as a precaution against overdosing on opioids (such as heroin or fentanyl).
• If a client overdoses, don't leave them alone. Walk them around, keep them awake if unconscious, put them in the recovery position, call for help.
• The presence of chems, or sexual service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report it to police or other services.
• Struggle to find sex exciting without the use of chems, but currently need the extra money from hookup-for-reward on chems sessions? Consider trying to earn and save enough to enable doing it without chems to get your body used to how it is again, even if for a week or so. The more familiar the feeling is again, the more reliable your body will be.
• Explore the chems harm-reduction advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

SAFER SEX TIPS:

• “PrEP” is a pill routine that people who don't live with HIV can use to prevent them acquiring HIV, it is a useful failsafe for anyone having sex regularly. It is available for free from the NHS and you can arrange to access it via your sexual health clinic.
• After exposure to HIV, you can go to an A&E or sexual health clinic and ask for "PEP", a month-long course to try to reverse the new acquisition. It must be started within 72 hrs of exposure the sooner the better the chances of success.
• People living with HIV maintaining effective treatment are Undetectable, meaning their HIV cannot be passed on sexually. "Window Periods" refers to the time it takes before an STI exposure could react on a test result. It is unique to each test type used, impacting which clients and sexual partners need notifying to get tested. Clinics can do anonymous notifications for you if requested.
• Maintain a record of sexual encounters and contact information for a year. This way, if you test positive for an STI later, relevant individuals can be notified to get tested. The notification will go back to your previous negative result for that STI and continue further back for the duration of the Window Period for that STI’s test type.
• "Shedding Durations" is the time after STI treatment where tests would still be reacting to the treated STI. It will affect how accurately you are aware of an STI.
• HPV vaccination ahead of exposure to different strains can prevent later need for cancer treatments of the cervix, anus, penis or throat, and can prevent genital warts. The vaccination is available to all genders from the NHS.
• Some vaccines that others just like you found useful include the Hep B vaccine, Hep A vaccine, Covid vaccine, Mpox vaccine.
• Explore the sexual health advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

LEGAL RISK TIPS (UK):

• Avoid bringing substances for clients. The law would consider you a dealer, whereby the legal risks increase hugely.
• The presence of chems or sexual service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report them to police or other services.
• You can access legal advice via the trade union "Sex Workers Union", who welcomes gogos, porn performers, adult content-creators, professional doms, escorts, cam models & others who hookup for reward.
• Being in a trade union before an incident makes it simpler for the union to respond fast when needed.
• You can collectively organize within the union resisting corporate policies or laws that impact you negatively.

 

FINANCIAL RISK TIPS:

• Accepting payment upfront and taking deposits to arrange time and cover travel costs reduce chances of being unpaid.
• Budgeting is essential when partying with a client - keep track of how much you spent vs profits you are actually left with. Think about how long chems would stay in your system and whether you are being paid for all that time or only for one hour (e.g.).
• If you feel you need to be high to earn this money, but you spent the money on getting high, where is the moment when it becomes not worth doing?
• Concerned about robbery or spending your reward while high? Only bring the cash you intend to use that time, arranging rewards to be received in other ways.
• Consider bringing a stamped and addressed envelope when with a client for a chill out party, so you can store cash you don't want to use in the envelope and mail it to yourself at a postbox. Be cautious of risks of the client seeing your address/PO box or a mail handler taking any obvious cash envelopes.
• For online transactions such as taking deposits, consider using a burner PayPal account with details you don’t mind a client seeing and transferring money from it to your main one for withdrawals.
• Be aware PayPal would close your account if they learn what these payments are for.
• Transfer funds straight away to a main PayPal account to avoid ‘chargeback’ robbery.
• PayPal burner accounts need to be under a threshold amount (which varies) before ID verification is requested. The verification prevents the use of other names for your security, as names appear on transactions.

 

WANTING CHANGE TIPS:

• Many found useful to be assessed for neurodivergence for advice on handling it. Some neurodivergence can also affect relationships to substances, e.g. ADHD is a lack of dopamine production.
• Many found useful accessing therapy to overcome anything holding them back, such as trauma, hidden fears of failure, internalized negativity etc.
• If you are wanting change but keep facing rejection, consider asking someone who can help with tasks like your CV or cover letters. Maybe AI could help with wording.
• If you can afford it, reverse-recruiting can apply for civilian jobs for you if it is overwhelming you.
• Consider finding work within a comfort zone that you can hold down while applying for or training for the jobs you really want if you're facing repeated rejection in a job search.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer or based on your income level.

 

USEFUL RESOURCES:

• Sex Workers Union branch in BFAWU, Banana Milkshake, SWARM, SW Breakfasts, DecrimNowUK, ESWA, TAMPEP, davidstuart.org/care-plan, one to one support, Book: Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina.
  At your sexual health clinic you can ask to speak to a Health Advisor, who can help with your chems use queries or help you find the type of support you are looking for.

 

We want to thank JASON DOMINO very deeply for helping so much with the preparation of this document. Jason is a UK sexual health and wellbeing advocate, sex work activist and porn star. He is also a notable member of The Sex Workers Union

 

ESTABLISHING BOUNDARIES:

• Outline your boundaries at the start. If a customer crosses one what others might they cross if unchecked? E.g. asking if they need a ‘stillness break’ before continuing.
• "The Buddy System" is the practice of you telling a friend where you are and the details of who you are with, with the expectation of you calling back once you are in a safe environment. Otherwise, they will travel to the location to check if you are ok. This is often done so the person you are with is aware a buddy is looking out for you. There may be codewords meaning something is wrong and to call for help.
• When offering drug or chems sessions with customers, it's important to establish work/play boundaries.
• Separate times in which you make money from your partying, such weekdays vs. weekends or set days you keep for it. Alternatively, only using chems in your personal life OR when you are meeting a customer.
• Instead of chems sessions some offer 'sober sex confidence sessions' aiming to provide trigger-free intimacy for the many people in recovery.
• Be cautious if partying with a new customer, everyone reacts differently to substances.
• Be aware of and avoid new substances on the scene when you are with a customer.
• Consider only accepting payment in money instead of in chems for their quality control.
• Recognize and leave triggering environments or networks to avoid dependence on substances building up.
• Telling yourself "I can handle it, others don't know their limits" is how all habitual use is rationalized.
• Regularly ask yourself 'Does *seeking support* trigger feelings of identity anxiety, more than pride in your self-awareness?' If anxiety to support is unchecked, what could prevent chems in your life getting unmanageable?
• If you are expected to climax, consider practicing how you might fake it or an alternative if your body were unable to.
• Prepare ahead what you would do and would say no to if your body were not performing for a session, e.g. having an alternative lined up redirecting focus without that body pressure.
• If you are given free chems ensure they know it is a gift, without you then owing them something in return. Outside of kink roleplay, feeling owned can lead to depression.

 

ANTI-SPIKING TIPS:

• Bring your own chems and drinks, make small amounts so if it could have been spiked out of sight you can throw it out and remake it.
• Don’t leave drinks or chems unattended. If they were, replace it as potentially spiked, regardless of your gender. Recall the UK’s worst perpetrator of this practice targeted random men.
• Watch out for non-consensual blowback kisses (blowing Tina smoke into your mouth).
• Watch out for substances on their bum or genitals placed there to affect you non-consensually.
• Bring a few types of your own lube, so they can't have a preference to get you using theirs, which could be spiked.

 

CHEMS GOING WRONG TIPS

• If a customer experiences psychosis, communicate calmly and clearly, take them to a calm environment away from the sex setting, with TV /music turned off. Call 999 if necessary.
• Carry Naloxone as a precaution against overdosing on opioids (such as heroin or fentanyl).
• If a customer overdoses, don't leave them alone. Walk them around, keep them awake if unconscious, put them in the recovery position, call for help.
• The presence of chems or sexual service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report them to police or other services.
• Struggle to find sex exciting without the use of chems, but currently need the extra money from hookup-for-reward on chems sessions? Consider trying to earn and save enough to enable doing it without chems to get your body used to how it is again, even if for a week or so. The more familiar the feeling is again, the more reliable your body will be.
• Explore the chems harm-reduction advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

SAFER SEX TIPS:

• “PrEP” is a pill routine that people who don't live with HIV can use to prevent them acquiring HIV, it is a useful failsafe for anyone having sex regularly. It is available for free from the NHS and you can arrange to access it via your sexual health clinic.
• After exposure to HIV, you can go to an A&E or sexual health clinic and ask for "PEP", a month-long course to try to reverse the new acquisition. It must be started within 72 hours of exposure: the earlier it’s taken, the better the chances of success.
• People living with HIV maintaining effective treatment are Undetectable, meaning their HIV cannot be passed on sexually.
• "Window Periods" refer to the time it takes before an STI exposure could react on a test result. It is unique to each test type used, impacting which customers and sexual partners need notifying to test. Clinics can do anonymous notifications for you if requested.
• Maintain a record of sexual encounters and contact information for a year. This way, if you test positive for an STI later, relevant individuals can be notified to get tested. The notification will go back to your previous negative result for that STI and continue further back for the duration of the Window Period for that STI’s test type.
• "Shedding Durations" refers to the time after STI treatment where tests would still be reacting to the treated STI. It will affect how accurately you are aware of an STI.
• HPV vaccination ahead of exposure to different strains can prevent later need for cancer treatments of the cervix, anus, penis or throat, and can prevent genital warts. The vaccination is available to all genders from the NHS.
• Some vaccines that others just like you found useful include the Hep B vaccine, Hep A vaccine, Covid vaccine, Mpox vaccine.
• Explore the sexual health advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

LEGAL RISK TIPS (UK)

• Avoid bringing substances for customers. The law would consider you a dealer, whereby the legal risks increase hugely.
• The presence of chems or sexual service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report it to police or other services.
• You can access legal advice via the trade union “Sex Workers Union” who welcomes those offering erotic massage, gogos, porn performers, adult content-creators, professional doms, escorts, cam models & people who hookup for reward.
• Being in a trade union before an incident makes it simpler for the union to respond fast when needed.
• You can collectively organize within the union, resisting corporate policies or laws that impact you negatively.

 

FINANCIAL RISK TIPS:

• Accepting payment upfront and taking deposits to arrange time and cover travel costs reduce chances of being unpaid.
• Budgeting is essential if partying with a customer - keep track of how much you spent vs. profits you are actually left with. Think about how long chems would stay in your system and whether you are being paid for all that time or only for an hour (e.g.).
• If you feel you need to be high to earn this money, but you spent the money on getting high, where is the moment when it becomes not worth doing?
• Concerned about robbery or spending your pay while high? Try only bringing the cash you intend to use that time out, arranging the payment to be sent in other ways.
• For online transactions such as taking deposits consider using a burner PayPal account with details you don’t mind a customer seeing but transferring money from it to your main one for withdrawals to your bank.
• Be aware that PayPal would close your account if they learn what these payments are for.
• Transfer funds straight away to a main PayPal account to avoid ‘chargeback’ robbery.
• PayPal burner accounts need to be under a threshold amount (which varies) before ID verification is requested. Verification prevents the use of other names for your security, as names appear on transactions.

 

WANTING CHANGE TIPS:

• Many found useful to be assessed for neurodivergence for advice on handling it. Some neurodivergences can also affect relationships to substances, e.g. ADHD is a lack of dopamine production.
• Many found useful to access therapy to overcome anything holding them back, such as trauma, hidden fears of failure, internalized negativity etc.
• If you are wanting change but keep facing rejection, consider asking someone who can help with tasks like your CV or cover letters. Maybe AI could help with wording.
• If you can afford it, reverse-recruiting can apply for civilian jobs for you if it is overwhelming you.
• Consider finding work within a comfort zone that you can hold down while applying for or training for the jobs you really want if you're facing repeated rejection in a job search.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer or based on your income level.

 

USEFUL RESOURCES:

• Sex Workers Union branch in BFAWU, Banana Milkshake, SWARM, SW Breakfasts, DecrimNowUK, ESWA, TAMPEP, davidstuart.org/care-plan, one to one support, Book: Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina.
  At your sexual health clinic you can ask to speak to a Health Advisor, who can help with your chems use queries or help you find the type of support you are looking for.

 

We want to thank JASON DOMINO very deeply for helping so much with the preparation of this document. Jason is a UK sexual health and wellbeing advocate, sex work activist and porn star. He is also a notable member of The Sex Workers Union

ESTABLISHING BOUNDARIES:

• Outline your boundaries at the start. If a client crosses one, what others might they cross?
• "The Buddy System" is the practice of you telling a friend where you are and, if possible, your client's details, with the expectation of you calling back once you are in a safe environment, otherwise they will travel to the location to check if you are ok. This is often done so the client or brothel manager is aware a buddy is looking out for you. There may be codewords communicating ‘something is wrong, call for help’.
• Most brothels do not allow chems use and mandate condom use, but some provide incall and outcall services where these standards are occasionally pushed by clients.
• When offering drug or chem sessions with clients, it's important to establish work/play boundaries.
• Separate times you make money from your partying, such weekdays vs. weekends or set days you keep for. Alternatively, only using chems in your personal life OR when you are meeting a client.
• Instead of chems sessions some offer 'sober sex confidence sessions' aiming to provide trigger-free intimacy for clients in recovery.
• Be cautious if partying with first-time clients, everyone reacts differently to substances.
• Only accept payment in money instead of in chems, for their quality control.
• Be aware of and avoid new substances on the scene when with a client.
• Recognize and leave triggering environments or networks to avoid dependence on substances building up.
• Telling yourself "I can handle it, others don't know their limits" is how all habitual use is rationalized.
• Regularly ask yourself, 'Does *seeking support* trigger feelings of identity anxiety, more than pride in your self-awareness?' If anxiety to support is unchecked, what could prevent chems in your life getting unmanageable?
• If you are expected to climax, consider practicing how you might fake it or an alternative if your body were unable.
• Prepare ahead what you would do and would say no to if your body were not performing for a session. E.g. having an alternative lined up redirecting focus without that body pressure.
• If you are given free chems ensure they know it is a gift, without you then owing them something in return. Outside of kink roleplay, feeling owned can lead to depression.

ANTI-SPIKING TIPS:

• Bring your own chems and drinks. Make small amounts, so if the drink could have been spiked out of sight you can throw it out and remake it.
• Don’t leave drinks or chems unattended. If they were, replace it as potentially spiked, regardless of your gender. Recall the UK’s worst perpetrator of this practice targeted random men.
• Watch out for non-consensual blowback kisses (blowing Tina smoke into your mouth).
• Watch out for substances on their bum or genitals placed there to affect you non-consensually.
• Bring a few types of your own lube, so they can't have a preference to get you using theirs, which could be spiked.

 

CHEMS GOING WRONG TIPS

• If a client experiences psychosis, communicate calmly and clearly, take them to a calm environment away from the sex setting, with TV /music turned off. Call 999 if necessary.
• Carry Naloxone as a precaution against overdosing on opioids (such as heroin or fentanyl).
• If a client overdoses, don't leave them alone. Walk them around, keep them awake if unconscious, put them in the recovery position, call for help.
• The presence of chems, or sexual service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report them to the police or other services.
• Struggle to find sex exciting without the use of chems, but currently need the extra money from hookup-for-reward on chems sessions? Consider trying to earn and save enough to enable doing it without chems to get your body used to how it is again, even if for a week or so. The more familiar the feeling is again, the more reliable your body will be.
• Explore the chems harm-reduction advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

SAFER SEX TIPS:

• “PrEP” is a pill routine that people who don't live with HIV can use to prevent them acquiring HIV, it is a useful failsafe for anyone having sex regularly. It is available for free from the NHS and you can arrange to access it via your sexual health clinic.
• After exposure to HIV you can go to an A&E or sexual health clinic and ask for "PEP", a month-long course to try to reverse the new acquisition. It must be started within 72 hours of exposure. The sooner it’s taken, the better the chances of success.
• People living with HIV maintaining effective treatment are Undetectable, meaning their HIV cannot be passed on sexually.
• "Window Periods" refers to the time taken before an STI exposure could react on a test result. It is unique to each test type used, impacting which clients and sexual partners need notifying to get tested. Clinics can do anonymous notifications for you if requested.
• Maintain a record of sexual encounters and contact information for a year. This way, if you test positive for an STI later, relevant individuals can be notified to get tested. The notification will go back to your previous negative result for that STI and continue further back for the duration of the Window Period for that STI’s test type.
• "Shedding Durations" refers to the time after STI treatment where tests would still be reacting to the treated STI. It will affect how accurately you are aware of an STI.
• HPV vaccination ahead of exposure to different strains can prevent later need for cancer treatments of the cervix, anus, penis or throat, and can prevent genital warts. The vaccination is available to all genders from the NHS.
• Some vaccines that others just like you found useful include the Hep B vaccine, Hep A vaccine, Covid vaccine, Mpox vaccine.
• Explore the sexual health advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

LEGAL RISK TIPS (UK):

• Avoid bringing substances for a client. The law would consider you a dealer, whereby the legal risks increase hugely.
• The presence of chems or sexual service situations does NOT mean ambulances report them to the police or other services.
• You can access legal advice via the trade union "Sex Workers Union", who welcomes those offering erotic massage, gogos, porn performers, adult content-creators, professional doms, escorts, cam models & people who hookup for reward.
• Being in a trade union before an incident makes it simpler for the union to respond fast when needed.
• You can collectively organise within the union, resisting corporate policies or laws that impact you negatively. Someday, malpractice from a brothel manager could result in you taking them to court.

POLICE RAIDS (UK)

• Clients are not breaking the law. Politely ask them to get dressed.
• Ask "Am I being detained?" If the answer is no, you are free to leave.
• Put money and phones in your personal bag; they can't search it without permission unless you're being arrested.
• Get dressed, as you're unlikely to be arrested.
• You don't have to give your legal name or ID.
• Ask officers for their ID and note down their names and badge numbers.
• Ask officers "What powers are you using?" to understand the purpose of the visit.
• Welfare Check: Assure them you're safe and not being forced to work. Say "no comment" if asked about work and other workers.
• Modern Slavery Raid: You have the right to work in the UK. You don't need to answer questions. If not detained, leave; if detained, ask for a lawyer.
• Brothel Raid: Say "no comment" to all questions, especially about working patterns and leadership.
• You don't need to provide any information, including your name.
• Don't answer questions about other workers. Keep everyone's identities confidential.
• Selling sex is not illegal, and you cannot be arrested for it. Say "no comment" to avoid misunderstandings."

 

FINANCIAL RISK TIPS:

• Accepting payments upfront and taking deposits to arrange time and cover travel costs reduce chances of being unpaid.
• Budgeting is essential if partying with a client: keep track of how much you spent vs. profits you are actually left with. Think about how long chems would stay in your system and whether you are being paid for all that time or only for an hour (e.g.).
• If you feel you need to be high to earn this money, but you spent the money on getting high, where is the moment when it becomes not worth doing?
• Concerned about robbery or spending your reward while high? Only bring the cash you intend to use that time, arranging client payment to be received in other ways.
• Consider bringing a stamped and addressed envelope when out partying with a client, so you can store cash you don't want to use in the envelope and mail it to yourself at a postbox. Be cautious of risks of the client seeing your address/PO box or a mail handler taking any obvious cash envelopes.
• For online transactions such as taking deposits consider using a burner PayPal account with details you don’t mind a client seeing but transferring money from it to your main one for withdrawals to your bank.
• Be aware that PayPal would close your account if they learn what these payments are for.
• Transfer funds straight away to a main PayPal account to avoid ‘chargeback’ robbery.
• PayPal burner accounts need to be under a threshold amount (which varies) before ID verification is requested. Verification prevents the use of other names for your security, as names appear on transactions.

 

WANTING CHANGE TIPS:

• Many found useful to be assessed for neurodivergence for advice on handling it. Some neurodivergence can also affect relationships to substances, e.g. ADHD is a lack of dopamine production.
• Many found useful to access therapy to overcome anything holding them back, such as trauma, hidden fears of failure, or internalized negativity etc.
• If you are wanting change but keep facing rejection, consider asking someone who can help with tasks like your CV or cover letters. Maybe AI could help with wording.
• If you can afford it, reverse-recruiting can apply for civilian jobs for you if it is overwhelming you.
• Consider finding work within a comfort zone that you can hold down while applying for or training for the jobs you really want if you're facing repeated rejection in a job search.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer or based on your income level.

 

USEFUL RESOURCES:

• Sex Workers Union branch in BFAWU, Banana Milkshake, SWARM, SW Breakfasts, DecrimNowUK, ESWA, TAMPEP, davidstuart.org/care-plan, one to one support, Book: Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina.
  At your sexual health clinic you can ask to speak to a Health Advisor, who can help with your chems use queries or help you find the type of support you are looking for.

 

We want to thank JASON DOMINO very deeply for helping so much with the preparation of this document. Jason is a UK sexual health and wellbeing advocate, sex work activist and porn star. He is also a notable member of The Sex Workers Union

ESTABLISHING BOUNDARIES:

• Outline your boundaries at the start. If a client crosses one, what others might they test or cross?
• "The Buddy System" is the practice of telling a friend where you are and the details of who you are with, with the expectation of you calling back once you are in a safe environment. Otherwise, they will travel to the location to check if you are ok. This is often done so the person you are with is aware that a buddy is looking out for you. There may be codewords meaning something is wrong and to call for help.
• When offering drug or chem sessions with clients, it's important to establish work/play boundaries.
• Separate times you make money from your partying, such weekdays. vs weekends or set days that you keep for. Alternatively, only using chems in your personal life OR when you are meeting a client.
• Instead of chems sessions some offer 'sober sex confidence sessions' aiming to provide trigger-free intimacy for clients in recovery.
• Be cautious when partying with first-time clients, everyone reacts differently to substances.
• Consider only accepting payment in money instead of in chems for their quality control.
• Be aware of and avoid new substances on the scene when with a client.
• Recognize and leave triggering environments or networks to avoid dependence on substances build up.
• Telling yourself "I can handle it, others don't know their limits" is how all habitual use is rationalized.
• Regularly ask yourself, 'Does *seeking support* trigger feelings of identity anxiety, more than pride in your self-awareness?' If anxiety to support is unchecked, what could prevent chems in your life getting unmanageable?
• If you are expected to climax, consider practicing how you might fake it or think of an alternative if your body were unable to.
• Prepare ahead what you would do and what you would say no to if your body were not performing for a session. E.g. having an alternative lined up redirecting focus without that body pressure.
• If you are given free chems ensure they know it is a gift, without you then owing them something in return. Outside of kink roleplay, feeling owned can lead to depression.

ANTI-SPIKING TIPS:

• Bring your own chems and drinks. Make small amounts so if they could have been spiked out of sight you can throw it out and remake it.
• Don’t leave drinks or chems unattended. If it was, replace it as potentially spiked, regardless of your gender. Recall the UK’s worst perpetrator of this practice targeted random men.
• Watch out for non-consensual blowback kisses (blowing Tina smoke into your mouth).
• Watch out for substances on their bum or genitals placed there to affect you non-consensually.
• Bring a few types of your own lube, so a client can't have a preference to get you using theirs. It could be spiked, throwing off how much chems you are aware of taking.

 

CHEMS GOING WRONG TIPS

• If a client experiences psychosis, communicate calmly and clearly, take them to a calm environment away from the sex setting, with TV /music turned off. Call 999 if necessary.
• Carry Naloxone as a precaution against overdosing on opioids (such as heroin or fentanyl).
• If a client overdoses, don't leave them alone. Walk them around, keep them awake if unconscious, put them in the recovery position, call for help.
• The presence of chems, or sexual service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report them to police or other services.
• Struggle to find sex exciting without the use of chems, but currently need the extra money from hookup-for-reward on chems sessions? Consider trying to earn and save enough to enable yourself doing it without chems to get your body used to how it is again, even if for a week or so. The more familiar the feeling is again, the more reliable your body will be.
• Explore the chems harm-reduction advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

SAFER SEX TIPS:

• “PrEP” is a pill routine that people who don't live with HIV can use to prevent them acquiring HIV, it is a useful failsafe for anyone having sex frequently. It is available free from the NHS and you can arrange to access it via your sexual health clinic.
• After exposure to HIV you can go to an A&E or sexual health clinic and ask for "PEP", a month-long course to try to reverse the new acquisition. It must be started within 72 hours of exposure. The sooner it’s taken, the better the chances of success.
• People living with HIV maintaining effective treatment are Undetectable, meaning their HIV cannot be passed on sexually.
• "Window Periods" refers to the time taken before an STI exposure could react on a test result. It is unique to each test type used, impacting which clients need notification to test, which clinics can do for you anonymously when requested.
• Maintain a record of sexual encounters and contact information for a year. This way, if you test positive for an STI later, relevant individuals can be notified to get tested. Notifications for those relevant go back to your previous negative result for that STI, continuing further back for the duration of the Window Period for that STI’s test type.
• "Shedding Durations" are the time after STI treatment where tests would still be reacting to the treated STI. It will affect how accurately you are aware of an STI.
• HPV vaccination ahead of exposure to different strains can prevent later need for cancer treatments of the cervix, anus, penis or throat, and can prevent genital warts. The vaccination is available to all genders on the NHS.
• Some vaccines that others just like you found useful include the Hep B vaccine, Hep A vaccine, Covid vaccine, Mpox vaccine.
• Explore the sexual health advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

LEGAL RISK TIPS (UK):

• Avoid bringing substances in exchange for reward. The law would consider you a dealer, whereby the legal risks increase hugely.
• The presence of chems or sexual service situations does NOT mean ambulances report them to police or other services in the UK.
• You can access legal advice via the trade union “Sex Workers Union” who welcomes those offering erotic massage, gogos, porn performers, adult content-creators, professional doms, escorts, cam models & people who hookup for reward.
• Being in a trade union before an incident makes it simpler for the union to respond fast when needed.
• You can collectively organize within the union resisting corporate policies or laws that impact you negatively.

 

FINANCIAL RISK TIPS:

• Accepting payment upfront and taking deposits to arrange time and cover travel costs reduce chances of being unpaid.
• Budgeting is essential if partying with a client: keep track of how much you spent vs profits you actually left with. Think about how long chems would stay in your system and whether you are being paid for all that time or only for an hour (e.g.).
• If you feel you need to be high to earn this money, but you spent the money on getting high, where is the moment when it becomes not worth doing?
• Concerned about robbery or spending your earnings while high? Only bring the cash you intend to use that time, arranging rewards to be received in other ways.
• Consider bringing a stamped and addressed envelope when out partying with a client, so you can store cash you don't want to use in the envelope and mail it to yourself at a postbox. Be cautious of risks of the client seeing your address/PO box or a mail handler taking any obvious cash envelopes.
• For online transactions such as taking deposits consider using a burner PayPal account with details you don’t mind a client seeing but transferring money from it to your main one for withdrawals to your bank.
• Be aware PayPal will close your account if they learn what these payments are for.
• Transfer funds straight away to a main PayPal account to avoid ‘chargeback’ robbery.
• PayPal burner accounts need to be under a threshold amount (which varies) before ID verification is requested. Verification prevents the use of other names for your security, as names appear on transactions.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer or based on your income level.

 

WANTING CHANGE TIPS:

• Many found it useful to be assessed for neurodivergence for advice on handling it. Some neurodivergence can also affect relationships to substances, e.g. ADHD is a lack of dopamine production.
• Many found it useful to access therapy to overcome anything holding them back, such as trauma, hidden fears of failure, or internalized negativity etc.
• If you are wanting change but keep facing rejection, consider asking someone who can help with tasks like your CV or cover letters, maybe AI could help with wording.
• Reverse-recruiting can apply for civilian jobs for you if it is overwhelming you, be aware it is a paid service.
• Consider finding work within a comfort zone that you can hold down while applying for or training for the jobs you really want if you're facing repeated rejection in a job search.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer or based on your income level.

 

USEFUL RESOURCES:

• Sex Workers Union branch in BFAWU, Banana Milkshake, SWARM, SW Breakfasts, DecrimNowUK, ESWA, TAMPEP, davidstuart.org/care-plan, one to one support, Book: Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina.
  At your sexual health clinic you can ask to speak to a Health Advisor, who can help with your chems use queries or help you find the type of support you are looking for.

 

We want to thank JASON DOMINO very deeply for helping so much with the preparation of this document. Jason is a UK sexual health and wellbeing advocate, sex work activist and porn star. He is also a notable member of The Sex Workers Union

ESTABLISHING BOUNDARIES:

• Outline your boundaries at the start. If a customer crosses one, what others might they cross?
• For hookups or if you ever go leave with a customer, "The Buddy System" is the practice of you telling a friend where you are, and the customer or hookup's details with the expectation of you calling back once you are in a safe environment, otherwise the friend will travel to the location to check if you are ok. This is often done so the customer or hookup is aware that a friend is looking out for you. Some people establish codewords meaning something is wrong and to call for help.
• BEFORE working a new event ask the organizer how crowd touching/participation is handled, from no touching to performer-customer sex. This can vary between events.
• Consider bringing your own small signs reading “Please do not touch the performers” or the expected boundary level setting for when it is too loud to say to customers. You can directly, or via your trade union, request the venue has these signs by the performance areas.
• Most venues have a no substance use policy, with performers being fired for breaking this. However, many have a backstage culture or customer culture where chems are used. Be aware in case this may trigger you.
• It's important to establish your work/play boundaries, shifts rarely feel like ‘just being paid to party’.
• Separate times you make money from your partying, such weekdays vs weekends or set days you keep to. Alternatively, only use chems in your personal life OR when you are gogoing.
• If a customer seems high or very drunk, be cautious as they may react surprisingly to substances.
• Consider only accepting tips in money instead of in chems for their quality control.
• Be aware of and avoid new substances on the scene when with a customer.
• Recognize and leave triggering environments or networks to avoid dependence on substances building up.
• Consider experimenting with offers for performances at sober events, aiming to provide trigger-free entertainment for customers in recovery or who are teetotal.
• Telling yourself "I can handle it, others don't know their limits" is how all habitual use is rationalized.
• Regularly ask yourself, 'Does *seeking support* trigger feelings of identity anxiety, more than pride in your self-awareness?' If anxiety to support is unchecked, what could prevent chems in your life getting unmanageable?
• Consider practicing faking taking a shot or ordering discreetly non-alcoholic drinks.
• If your performance expects a climax shot, consider practicing how you might fake it or end the show if your body were unable to do so on stage.
• Prepare ahead what you would do and would say no to, if/when your body is not performing for a performance. E.g. getting co-performer’s consent and having a kink alternative performance lined up without that body pressure.
• If you are given free chems ensure they know it is a gift, without you then owing them something in return. Outside of kink roleplay, feeling owned can lead to depression.

 

ANTI-SPIKING TIPS:

• Get your own chems and drinks, make small amounts so if they could have been spiked out of sight you can throw it out and remake it.
• Don’t leave drinks or chems unattended. If they were, replace it as potentially spiked, regardless of your gender. Recall the UK’s worst perpetrator of this practice targeted random men.
• Watch out for non-consensual blowback kisses (blowing Tina smoke into your mouth)
• Watch out for substances on a customer’s bum or genitals placed there to affect you non-consensually.
• If doing a sex show or hooking up, bring a few types of your own lube, so others can't have a preference to get you using theirs. It could be spiked, throwing off how much chems you are aware of taking.

 

CHEMS GOING WRONG TIPS

• If a customer experiences psychosis, communicate calmly and clearly, take them to a calm environment away from the sex setting, with TV /music turned off. Call 999 if necessary.
• Carry Naloxone as a precaution against overdosing on opioids (such as heroin or fentanyl).
• If a customer overdoses, don't leave them alone. Walk them around, keep them awake if unconscious, put them in the recovery position, call for help.
• The presence of chems, or sexual performance or service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report them to police or other services.
• Struggle to find sex exciting without the use of chems, but currently need the extra money from hookup-for-reward on chems sessions? Consider trying to earn and save enough to enable yourself doing it without chems to get your body used to how it is again, even if for a week or so. The more familiar the feeling is again, the more reliable your body will be.
• Explore the chems harm-reduction advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

SAFER SEX TIPS:

• “PrEP” is a pill routine that people who don't live with HIV can use to prevent them acquiring HIV. It is a useful failsafe for anyone having sex regularly. It is available free from the NHS and you can arrange to access it via your sexual health clinic.
• After exposure to HIV you can go to an A&E or sexual health clinic and ask for "PEP", a month-long course to try and reverse the new acquisition. It must be started within 72 hours of exposure. The sooner it’s taken, the better the chances of success.
• People living with HIV maintaining effective treatment are Undetectable, meaning their HIV cannot be passed on sexually.
• "Window Periods" refers to the time taken before an STI exposure could react on a test result. It is unique to each test type used, impacting which people need notification to test and which clinics can do for you anonymously when requested. Window Periods can affect how you interpret your own and other’s “ID seen” Sexual Health certificates used for some performances.
• Maintain a record of sexual encounters and contact information for a year. This way, if you test positive for an STI later, relevant individuals can be notified to get tested. Notifications for those relevant going back to your previous negative result for that STI, continuing further back for the duration of the Window Period for that STI’s test type.
• "Shedding Durations" refers to the time after STI treatment where tests would still be reacting to the treated STI. It will affect how accurately you are aware of an STI. Shedding Durations may affect your access to the “ID seen” Sexual Health certificates used for some performances.
• HPV vaccination ahead of exposure to different strains can prevent later need for cancer treatments of the cervix, anus, penis or throat, and can prevent genital warts. The vaccination is available to all genders on the NHS.
• Some vaccines that others just like you found useful include the Hep B vaccine, Hep A vaccine, Covid vaccine, Mpox vaccine.
• Explore the sexual health advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

LEGAL RISK TIPS (UK):

• The presence of chems, or sexual performance or service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report them to police or other services.
• You can access legal advice via the trade union “Sex Workers Union” who welcomes those offering erotic massage, gogos, porn performers, adult content-creators, professional doms, escorts, cam models & people who hookup for reward.
• Being in a trade union before an incident makes it simpler for the union to respond fast when needed.
• You can collectively organize in the union resisting employer policies, bank rules or laws which are impacting you negatively.

FINANCIAL RISK TIPS:

• To prevent closure many venues pay you a set fee per performance. They may be obligated to prevent opportunities for performers to escort with customers.
• If a customer is paying for time with you privately, accepting payment upfront and potentially taking deposits to arrange time and cover travel costs reduce chances of being unpaid.
• Budgeting is essential if booked to accompany a customer - keep track of how much you spent vs. profits you actually left with. Think about how long chems would stay in your system and whether you are being paid for all that time or only for an hour (e.g.).
• If you feel you need to be high to earn this money, but you spent the money on getting high, where is the moment when it becomes not worth doing?
• Concerned about a raid, robbery or spending your tips while high? Only bring the cash you intend to use when out, arranging payment or tips to be received in other ways if possible.
• Consider bringing, if necessary, a stamped and addressed envelope when out performing, so you can store cash you don't want to use in the envelope and mail it to yourself at a postbox during a break. Be cautious of risks of being followed to the mailbox or a customer seeing your address/PO box or a mail handler taking any obvious cash envelopes.
• For online transactions consider using a burner PayPal account with details you don’t mind a customer seeing but transferring money from it to your main one for withdrawals to your bank.
• Be aware PayPal will close your account if they learn what these payments are for.
• Transfer funds straight away to a main PayPal account to avoid ‘chargeback’ robbery.
• PayPal burner accounts need to be under a threshold amount (which varies) before ID verification is requested. Verification prevents the use of other names for your security, as names appear on transactions.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer, or based on your income level.

 

WANTING CHANGE TIPS:

• Many found it useful to be assessed for neurodivergence for advice on handling it. Some neurodivergence can also affect relationships to substances, e.g. ADHD is a lack of dopamine production.
• Many found it useful to access therapy to overcome anything holding them back, such as trauma, hidden fears of failure, internalized negativity etc.
• If you are wanting change but keep facing rejection, consider asking someone who can help with tasks like your CV or cover letters, maybe AI could help with wording.
• Reverse-recruiting can apply for civilian jobs for you if it is overwhelming you, be aware it is a paid service.
• Consider finding work within a comfort zone that you can hold down while applying for or training for the jobs you really want if you're facing repeated rejection in a job search.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer, or your income level.

 

USEFUL RESOURCES:

• Sex Workers Union branch in BFAWU, Banana Milkshake, SWARM, SW Breakfasts, DecrimNowUK, ESWA, TAMPEP, davidstuart.org/care-plan, one to one support, Book: Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina.
  At your sexual health clinic you can ask to speak to a Health Advisor, who can help with your chems use queries or help you find the type of support you are looking for.

 

We want to thank JASON DOMINO very deeply for helping so much with the preparation of this document. Jason is a UK sexual health and wellbeing advocate, sex work activist and porn star. He is also a notable member of The Sex Workers Union

 

ESTABLISHING BOUNDARIES:

• Outline your boundaries at the start. If a viewer crosses one, be firm in a way that others see as fair and take heed from.
• Camming platforms prohibit substance use and may ban cammers for breaking this rule. Some cam models, however, feel the need to use substances to get in the mood for performing due to the stress of model competition on the platform.
• It's important to establish boundaries when you will/won’t work and for how long, rather than going until a set amount is made.
• If you do meet a viewer in-person at some point, the “Buddy System" is the practice of you telling a friend where you are, and the viewer’s details, with the expectation of you calling back once you are in a safe environment, otherwise the friend will travel to the location to check if you are ok. If not found, then escalating to actions such as calling around or making a report of a missing person. This system is often done so the viewer is aware a friend is looking out for you to potentially deter incidents. Some establish codewords meaning something is wrong and to call for help.
• Separate times you make money from your partying, such weekdays vs. weekends or set days or times you keep for. Alternatively, only using chems in your personal life OR when you are camming or meeting a viewer.
• Be cautious of drunk or high viewers who may behave unpredictably on substances.
• Be aware of and avoid new substances on the scene until you know more about them.
• To prevent closure, many platforms may be obligated to prevent opportunities for cam models to escort with viewers. Be aware of what your platform allows.
• Recognize and leave triggering environments or networks to avoid dependence on substances building up.
• Telling yourself "I can handle it, others don't know their limits" is how all habitual use is rationalized.
• Regularly ask yourself 'Does *seeking support* trigger feelings of identity anxiety, more than pride in your self-awareness?' If anxiety to support is unchecked, what could prevent chems in your life getting unmanageable?
• If you are expected to climax, consider practicing how you might fake it or an alternative if your body were unable to.
• Prepare ahead what you would do and would say no to if your body were not performing for a performance, e.g. having an alternative lined up redirecting focus without that body pressure.
• If you are given free chems ensure they know it is a gift, without you then owing them something in return. Outside of kink roleplay, feeling owned can lead to depression.

ANTI-SPIKING TIPS:

• If partying, get your own chems and drinks, make small amounts so if they could have been spiked out of sight you can throw them out and remake them.
• Don’t leave drinks or chems unattended. If they were, replace them as potentially spiked, regardless of your gender. Recall the UK’s worst perpetrator of this practice targeted random men.
• Watch out for substances on someone’s bum or genitals, placed there to affect you non-consensually.
• Watch out for non-consensual blowback kisses (blowing Tina smoke into your mouth).
• If doing a show with another cam model, meeting a viewer in-person or hooking up, bring a few types of your own lube, so others can't have a preference to get you using theirs. It could be spiked, throwing off how much chems you are aware of taking.

 

CHEMS GOING WRONG TIPS

• If you are meeting a viewer in-person who experiences psychosis, communicate calmly and clearly, take them to a calm environment away from the sex setting, with TV /music turned off. Call 999 if necessary.
• Have Naloxone in the house as a precaution against overdosing on opioids (such as heroin or fentanyl).
• If a viewer you have met in-person overdoses, don't leave them alone. Walk them around, keep them awake if unconscious, put them in the recovery position, call for help.
• The presence of chems, sexual performance or service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report them to police or other services.
• Struggle to find sex exciting without the use of chems, but currently need the extra money from hookup-for-reward on chems sessions? Consider trying to earn and save enough to enable yourself doing it without chems to get your body used to how it is again, even if for a week or so. The more familiar the feeling is again, the more reliable your body will be.
• Explore the chems harm-reduction advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

SAFER SEX TIPS:

• “PrEP” is a pill routine that people who don't live with HIV can use to prevent them acquiring HIV. It is a useful failsafe for anyone having sex regularly, it is available free from the NHS and you can arrange to access it via your sexual health clinic.
• After exposure to HIV you can go to an A&E or sexual health clinic and ask for "PEP", a month-long course to try to reverse the new acquisition. It must be started within 72 hours of exposure. The sooner it’s taken, the better the chances of success.
• People living with HIV maintaining effective treatment are Undetectable, meaning their HIV cannot be passed on sexually.
• "Window Periods" refers to the time taken before an STI exposure could react on a test result. It is unique to each test type used, this impacts who you should notify to have an STI test. Clinics can anonymously notify people for you if requested. Window Periods can affect how you interpret your own and other’s results, including on the “ID seen” Sexual Health certificates shown to each other before filming, by a number of cam performers.
• Maintain a record of sexual encounters and contact information for a year. This way, if you test positive for an STI later, you can see who the relevant individuals are for notification to get tested. The list includes relevant exposures going back to your previous negative result for that STI, continuing further back for the duration of the Window Period for that STI’s test type.
• "Shedding Durations" is the time after STI treatment where tests would still be reacting to the treated STI and it will affect how accurately you are aware of a new STI. Shedding Durations may affect your access to the “ID seen” Sexual Health certificates shown to each other before filming by a number of cam performers.
• HPV vaccination ahead of exposure to different strains can prevent later need for cancer treatments of the cervix, anus, penis or throat, and can prevent genital warts. The vaccination is available to all genders from the NHS.
• Some vaccines that others just like you found useful include the Hep B vaccine, Hep A vaccine, Covid vaccine, Mpox vaccine.
• Explore the sexual health advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

LEGAL RISK TIPS (UK):

• Avoid bringing substances for a viewer in an in-person meet. The law would consider you a dealer, whereby the legal risks increase hugely.
• The presence of chems, sexual performance or service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report them to police or other services.
• You can access legal advice via the trade union “Sex Workers Union” who welcomes cam models along with adult content-creators, porn performers, gogos, professional doms, escorts & people who hookup for reward.
• Being in a trade union before an incident makes it simpler for the union to respond fast when needed.
• You can collectively organize in the union resisting corporate policies or laws that impact you negatively.

FINANCIAL RISK TIPS:

• If a viewer is paying for time with you in-person privately accept payment upfront, potentially taking deposits to arrange time and cover travel costs reduce chances of being unpaid.
• Budgeting reduces the chance the cost of your chems will affect you, meaning that the cam modeling is not earning you enough to pay your bills or losing you money compared to other work. Think about how long chems would stay in your system and whether you are going to earn during all of that time or only for an hour or two (e.g.). Being aware that content created when seemingly under the influence can be pulled down or reported, as sexual consent comes under question.
• If you feel you need to be high to earn this money, but you spent the money on getting high, where is the moment when it becomes not worth doing?
• Concerned about robbery or spending too much while high? Only bring the cash you intend to use out when partying.
• For online transactions, if you are worried your bank may stop transfers from your camming platform consider using a burner PayPal account with details you don’t mind the bank seeing.
• If you are taking tips off-platform be aware some platforms may ban you for this.
• If taking tips off-platform consider using a burner PayPal account with details you don’t mind a viewer seeing but transferring money from it to your main one for withdrawals.
• Be aware PayPal close accounts of cam models, porn performers, escorts etc. if they learn what you do.
• Transfer funds straight away to a main PayPal account to avoid ‘chargeback’ robbery.
• PayPal burner accounts need to be under a threshold amount (which varies) before ID verification is requested. Verification prevents the use of other names for your security, as names appear on transactions.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer, or based on your income level.

 

WANTING CHANGE TIPS:

• Many found it useful to be assessed for neurodivergence for advice on handling it. Some neurodivergence can also affect relationships to substances, e.g. ADHD is a lack of dopamine production.
• Many found it useful to access therapy to overcome anything holding them back, such as trauma, hidden fears of failure, or internalized negativity etc.
• If you are wanting change but keep facing rejection, consider asking someone who can help with tasks like your CV or cover letters, maybe AI could help with wording.
• Reverse-recruiting can apply for civilian jobs for you if it is overwhelming you, be aware it is a paid service.
• Consider finding work within a comfort zone that you can hold down while applying for or training for the jobs you really want if you're facing repeated rejection in a job search.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer, or based on your income level.

 

USEFUL RESOURCES:

• Sex Workers Union branch in BFAWU, Banana Milkshake, SWARM, SW Breakfasts, DecrimNowUK, ESWA, TAMPEP, davidstuart.org/care-plan, one to one support, Book: Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina.
  At your sexual health clinic you can ask to speak to a Health Advisor, who can help with your chems use queries or help you find the type of support you are looking for.

 

We want to thank JASON DOMINO very deeply for helping so much with the preparation of this document. Jason is a UK sexual health and wellbeing advocate, sex work activist and porn star. He is also a notable member of The Sex Workers Union

ESTABLISHING BOUNDARIES:

• Outline your boundaries at the start of a fan experience. If a fan crosses one, be firm in a way that others see as fair.
• If you do meet a fan at some point or are unsure about a collab you are with, the “Buddy System" is the practice of you telling a friend where you are and your fan's details, with the expectation of you calling back once you are in a safe environment, otherwise the friend will travel to the location to check if you are ok. This is often done so the person you are with is aware that a friend is looking out for you. Some establish codewords meaning something is wrong and to call for help.
• Platforms for adult content-creators prohibit substance use and may ban content-creators for breaking this rule. Content-creators may however feel the need to use substances to get in the mood for performing due to the stress of competition on the platform or perfectionist expectations of themselves.
• To prevent closure, many platforms may be obligated to prevent opportunities for content-creators to escort with fans. Be aware of what your platform allows.
• Set boundaries around your work and free time to prevent burnout, identity issues and limits on time impacts from chem sessions. Alternatively, only use chems in your personal life, when you are collaborating or in a fan meet.
• Separate times you make money from your partying, such weekdays vs weekends or set days or times you keep for.
• Be cautious of fans if meeting them. They may behave more unpredictably on substances.
• Be aware of and avoid new substances on the scene until you know more about them.
• Recognize and leave triggering environments or networks to avoid dependence on substances building up.
• Telling yourself "I can handle it, others don't know their limits" is how all habitual use is rationalized.
• Regularly ask yourself 'Does *seeking support* trigger feelings of identity anxiety, more than pride in your self-awareness?' If anxiety to support is unchecked, what could prevent chems in your life getting unmanageable?
• If you are expected to climax, consider how you might fake it, rearrange or do an alternative if your body were unable to do so.
• Prepare ahead what you would do and would say no to if your body were not performing during a collaboration with another adult content-creator. E.g. Having an alternative lined up redirecting focus without that body pressure.
• If you are given free chems ensure they know it is a gift, without you then owing them something in return. Outside of kink roleplay, feeling owned can lead to depression.

 

ANTI-SPIKING TIPS:

• Always get your own chems or drinks.
• Don’t leave drinks or chems unattended. If they were, replace them as potentially spiked, regardless of your gender. Recall the UK’s worst perpetrator of this practice targeted random men.
• Watch out for non-consensual blowback kisses (blowing Tina smoke into your mouth).
• Watch out for substances on someone’s bum or genitals, placed there to affect you non-consensually.
• Bring a few types of your own lube to a collaboration, so others can't have a preference to get you using theirs. It could be spiked throwing off how much chems you are aware of taking.

 

CHEMS GOING WRONG TIPS

• If you are meeting a fan or an adult content-creator who experiences psychosis, communicate calmly and clearly, take them to a calm environment away from the sex setting, with TV /music turned off. Call 999 if necessary.
• Have Naloxone in the house as a precaution against overdosing on opioids (such as heroin or fentanyl).
• If a fan or an adult content-creator overdoses, don't leave them alone. Walk them around, keep them awake if unconscious, put them in the recovery position, call for help.
• The presence of chems or sexual service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report them to police or other services.
• Struggle to find sex exciting without the use of chems, but currently need the extra money from hookup-for-reward on chems sessions? Consider trying to earn and save enough to enable doing it without chems to get your body used to how it is again, even if for a week or so. The more familiar the feeling is again, the more reliable your body will be.
• Explore the chems harm-reduction advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

SAFER SEX TIPS:

• “PrEP” is a pill routine that people who don't live with HIV can use to prevent them acquiring HIV, it is a useful failsafe for anyone having sex regularly. It is available free from the NHS and you can arrange to access it via your sexual health clinic.
• After exposure to HIV you can go to an A&E or sexual health clinic and ask for "PEP", a month-long course to try to reverse the new acquisition. It must be started within 72 hours of exposure. The sooner it’s taken, the better the chances of success.
• People living with HIV maintaining effective treatment are Undetectable, meaning their HIV cannot be passed on sexually.
• "Window Periods" refers to the time taken before an STI exposure could react on a test result. It’s unique to each test type used, which impacts who you should notify to have an STI test. Clinics can anonymously notify people for you if requested. Window Periods can affect how you interpret your own and other’s results, including on the “ID seen” Sexual Health certificates shown to each other by a number of people in adult content creation.
• Maintain a record of sexual encounters and contact information for a year. This way, if you test positive for an STI later, you can see who the relevant individuals are for notification to get tested. Including relevant exposures going back to your previous negative result for that STI, continuing further back for the duration of the Window Period for that STI’s test type.
• "Shedding Durations" refers to the time after STI treatment where tests would still be reacting to the treated STI. It will affect how accurately you are aware of a new STI. Shedding Durations may affect your access to the “ID seen” Sexual Health certificate shown to each other, by a number of people in adult content creation.
• HPV vaccination ahead of exposure to different strains can prevent later need for cancer treatments of the cervix, anus, penis or throat, and can prevent genital warts. The vaccination is available to all genders from the NHS.
• Some vaccines that others just like you found useful include the Hep B vaccine, Hep A vaccine, Covid vaccine, Mpox vaccine.
• Explore the sexual health advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

LEGAL RISK TIPS (UK):

• Avoid getting substances for other adult content creators. The law would consider you a dealer, whereby the legal risks increase hugely.
• The presence of chems or sexual performance or services situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report them to police or other services.
• You can access legal advice via the trade union “Sex Workers Union”, who welcomes adult content-creators along with cam models, porn performers, gogos, professional doms, escorts & people who hookup for reward.
• Being in a trade union before an incident makes it simpler for the union to respond fast when needed.
• The union has template paperwork, such as collaboration model releases with 2257 compliance, pre-filming forms and venue release forms.
• The union may be able to point you to a legal witness for your adult content-creation collaborations to observe your agreed consent boundaries and terms for distribution are respected.
• You can collectively organize in the union resisting platform policies, payment processor or bank discrimination or laws which are impacting you negatively.

 

FINANCIAL RISK TIPS:

• If a fan is paying for time with you privately accept payment upfront, potentially taking deposits to arrange time and cover travel costs to reduce chances of being unpaid.
• Budgeting reduces the chance that the cost of your chems leads to content-creation not earning you enough to pay your bills or losing you money compared to other work. Think about how long chems would stay in your system and how much of that time will make sellable content, e.g. an hour? Be aware that creating content seemingly under the influence can be pulled down, as sexual consent comes under question.
• If you feel you need to be high to earn this money, but you spent the money on getting high, where is the moment when it becomes not worth doing?
• Concerned about robbery or spending too much while high? Only bring the cash you intend to use out when partying.
• For online transactions consider using a burner PayPal account with details you wouldn’t mind fans seeing, but for transferring money to your main PayPal account with your legal details on for withdrawals to your bank.
• Transfer funds straight away to a main PayPal account to avoid ‘chargeback’ robbery.
• PayPal burner accounts need to be under a threshold amount (which varies) before ID verification is requested. Verification prevents the use of other names for your security, as names appear on transactions.
• Be aware PayPal close accounts of adult content-creators, cam models, porn performers, escorts etc. if they learn how the money is earned.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer, or based on your income level.

 

WANTING CHANGE TIPS:

• Many found it useful to be assessed for neurodivergence to access advice for handling it. Some neurodivergence can also affect relationships to substances, e.g. ADHD is a lack of dopamine production, which some substances create.
• Many found it useful to access therapy to overcome anything holding them back, such as trauma, hidden fears of failure, or internalized negativity etc.
• If you are wanting change but keep facing rejection, consider asking someone if they can help with tasks like your CV or cover letters, maybe AI could help with wording.
• Reverse-recruiting can apply for civilian jobs for you if it is overwhelming you, be aware it is a paid service.
• Consider finding work within a comfort zone that you can hold down while applying for or training for the jobs you really want if you're facing repeated rejection in a job search.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer, or your income level.

 

USEFUL RESOURCES:

• Sex Workers Union branch in BFAWU, Banana Milkshake, SWARM, SW Breakfasts, DecrimNowUK, ESWA, TAMPEP, davidstuart.org/care-plan, one to one support, Book: Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina.
  At your sexual health clinic you can ask to speak to a Health Advisor, who can help with your chems use queries or help you find the type of support you are looking for.

 

We want to thank JASON DOMINO very deeply for helping so much with the preparation of this document. Jason is a UK sexual health and wellbeing advocate, sex work activist and porn star. He is also a notable member of The Sex Workers Union

ESTABLISHING BOUNDARIES:

• When interacting with a studio, co-performer or fan, make sure to establish your personal boundaries upfront. If someone tries to push or violate your boundaries be assertive in maintaining them. It's important to demonstrate your boundary control, especially if others are present. Keep in mind that your actual personal boundaries may differ from the boundaries of a character you play in a roleplay scene.
• If you do meet a fan at some point or you are concerned about your safety at a production, the “Buddy System" is the practice of you telling a friend where you are and who you are with, with the expectation of you calling back once you are in a safer environment. Otherwise, the friend will travel to the location to check if you are ok. This is often done so those you are with are aware that a friend is looking out for you. Some establish codewords meaning something is wrong and for them to call for help.
• Most platforms for porn prohibit depictions of substance use and may ban performers for breaking this rule. Performers may however feel the need to use substances to get in the mood to perform due to the stress of competition on the platform, hiring criteria or perfectionist expectations of themselves.
• To prevent closure, many platforms may be obligated to prevent opportunities for performers to escort with fans. Be aware of what is allowed on platforms you use.
• Set firm boundaries around your work and free time, preventing burnout, identity issues and limits on time impact from chems sessions.
• Separate times you make money from your partying, such weekdays vs. weekends or set days or times you keep for. Alternatively, only using chems in your personal life, when you are performing or having a fan meeting.
• Be cautious of fans if meeting them, they may behave even more unpredictably on substances, same for studio staff and/or co-performers.
• Consider only accepting gifts as money or products you want instead of substances. This helps with quality control on the chems.
• Be aware of and avoid new substances in the community until you know more about them.
• Recognize and leave triggering environments or networks to avoid dependence on substances building up.
• Telling yourself "I can handle it, others don't know their limits" is how all habitual use is rationalized.
• Regularly ask yourself 'Does *seeking support* trigger feelings of identity anxiety, more than pride in your self-awareness?' If anxiety towards support goes unchecked, what could prevent chems in your life becoming unmanageable?
• If you are expected to climax, consider practicing how you might fake it if your body were unable to do so.
• Prepare ahead what you would do and would say no to if your body were not performing during a scene. Would you feel ok requesting to rearrange? Otherwise, having an alternative lined up such as a kink scene to redirecting focus without that body pressure.
• Carefully read any paperwork that productions offer you and avoid contracts with clauses you disagree with. Ask to read paperwork ahead of time without pressure to sign unread paperwork on set.
• If you are given free chems ensure they know it is a gift, without you then owing them something in return. Outside of kink roleplay, feeling owned can lead to depression.

 

ANTI-SPIKING TIPS:

• If having some, always get your own chems or drinks.
• Don’t leave drinks or chems unattended. If they were, replace them as potentially spiked, regardless of your gender. Recall the UK’s worst perpetrator of this practice targeted random men.
• Watch out for non-consensual blowback kisses (blowing Tina smoke into your mouth).
• Watch out for substances on someone’s bum or genitals, placed there to affect you non-consensually.
• Bring a few types of your own lube, so a studio or co-performer can't have a preference to get you using theirs. They could be spiked, throwing off how much chems you are aware of taking.

 

CHEMS GOING WRONG TIPS

• If you are meeting a fan or co-performer who experiences psychosis, communicate calmly and clearly, take them to a calm environment away from the sex setting, with TV /music turned off. Call 999 if necessary.
• Have Naloxone to hand as a precaution against overdosing on opioids (such as heroin or fentanyl).
• If a fan or co-performer overdoses, don't leave them alone. Walk them around, keep them awake if unconscious, put them in the recovery position, call for help.
• The presence of chems or sexual performance or service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report them to police or other services.
• Struggle to find sex exciting without the use of chems, but currently need the extra money from hookup-for-reward on chems sessions? Consider trying to earn and save enough to enable doing it without chems to get your body used to how it is again, even if for a week or so. The more familiar the feeling is again, the more reliable your body will be.
• Explore the chems harm-reduction advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

SAFER SEX TIPS:

• “PrEP” is a pill routine that people who don't live with HIV can use to prevent them acquiring HIV. It is a useful failsafe for anyone having sex regularly, it’s available free from the NHS and you can arrange to access it via your sexual health clinic.
• After exposure to HIV you can go to an A&E or sexual health clinic and ask for "PEP", a month-long course to try to reverse the new acquisition. It must be started within 72 hours of exposure. The sooner it’s taken, the better the chances of success.
• People living with HIV maintaining effective treatment are Undetectable, meaning their HIV cannot be passed on sexually.
• "Window Periods" refers to the time taken before an STI exposure could react on a test result. It is unique to each test type used and it impacts who you should notify to have an STI test. Clinics can anonymously notify people for you if requested. Window Periods can affect how you interpret your own and other’s results, including on the “ID seen” Sexual Health certificates shown to each other, by many porn performers.
• Maintain a record of sexual encounters and contact information for a year. This way, if you test positive for an STI later, you can see who the relevant individuals are to get a notification to get tested. Starting from relevant exposures, going back to your previous negative result for that STI, continuing further back for the duration of the Window Period for that STI’s test type.
• "Shedding Durations" refer to the time after STI treatment where tests would still be reacting to the treated STI. It will affect how accurately you are aware of a new STI. Shedding Durations may affect your access to the “ID seen” Sexual Health certificates, shown to each other by many porn performers.
• Many porn studios will ask for you to have monthly tests. Some internationally owned studios even ask for you to have 14 days tests that the NHS does not provide. Some tests required for syphilis may also not be available on the NHS. You can find access to private clinics offering these at a discount, contacting your trade union listed in the useful resources at the end.
• HPV vaccination ahead of exposure to different strains can prevent later need for cancer treatments of the cervix, anus, penis or throat, and can prevent genital warts. The vaccination is available to all genders from the NHS.
• Some vaccines that others just like you found useful include the Hep B vaccine, Hep A vaccine, Covid vaccine, Mpox vaccine.
• Explore the sexual health advice here, it’s easy for your information to become outdated without you being aware.

 

LEGAL RISK TIPS (UK):

• Avoid getting substances for other performers. The law would consider you a dealer, whereby the legal risks increase hugely.
• The presence of chems or sexual performance or service situations (most aren't illegal in the UK) does NOT mean ambulances report them to police or other services.
• You can access legal advice via the trade union “Sex Workers Union” who welcomes porn performers, along with adult content-creators, cam models, gogos, professional doms, escorts & people who hookup for reward.
• Being in a trade union before an incident makes it simpler for the union to respond fast when needed.
• The union has template paperwork, such as model releases with 2257 compliance, pre-filming forms and venue release forms.
• The union may be able to point you to a legal witness for productions you are in to observe that your agreed consent, boundaries, professional practice and terms for distribution are respected.
• Carefully read any paperwork that productions offer you and avoid contracts with clauses you disagree with.
• You can collectively organize in the union resisting studio or platform policies, payment processor or banking mistreatment, or laws which are impacting you negatively.

 

FINANCIAL RISK TIPS:

• If a fan is paying for time with you privately, accept payment upfront, potentially taking deposits to arrange time and cover travel costs to reduce chances of being unpaid.
• Budgeting reduces the chance that the cost of your chems will affect you, meaning that porn is not earning you enough to pay your bills or losing you money compared to other work.
• Think about how long chems would stay in your system and whether you are being paid for all that time or only for two hours (e.g.)? Being aware that footage recorded when seemingly under the influence means that it’s unlikely for a studio to be able to use it. Said content would be reportable, as the sexual consent may be questionable.
• If you feel you need to be high to earn this money, but you spent the money on getting high, where is the moment when it becomes not worth doing?
• Concerned about robbery or spending too much while high? Only bring the cash you intend to use out when partying or at chillouts.
• If necessary, consider bringing a stamped and addressed envelope when out partying at a cash paid gig. This way you can store cash you don't want to use in the envelope and mail it to yourself at a postbox. Be cautious of risks of others seeing your address/PO box, following you to the postbox to rob you or a mail handler taking any obvious cash envelopes.
• For online transactions consider using a burner PayPal account with details you wouldn’t mind others seeing, but just for transferring money from it to your main PayPal account with your legal details on for withdrawals to your bank.
• Be aware that PayPal closes accounts of porn performers, cam models, adult content-creators, escorts etc. if they learn how the money is earned.
• Transfer funds straight away to a main PayPal account to avoid ‘chargeback’ robbery.
• PayPal burner accounts need to be under a threshold amount (which varies) before ID verification is requested. Verification prevents the use of other names for your security, as names appear on transactions.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer or based on your income level.

 

WANTING CHANGE TIPS:

• Many found it useful to be assessed for neurodivergence to access advice for handling it. Some neurodivergence can also affect relationships to substances, e.g. ADHD is a lack of dopamine production, which some substances create.
• Many found it useful to access therapy to overcome anything holding them back, such as trauma, hidden fears of failure, identity conflicts or internalized negativity etc.
• If you are wanting change but keep facing workplace rejection, consider asking someone who can help with tasks like your CV or cover letters, maybe AI could help with wording.
• Reverse-recruiting can apply for civilian jobs for you if it is overwhelming you, be aware it is a paid service.
• Consider finding work within a comfort zone that you can hold down while applying for or training for the jobs you really want if you're facing repeated rejection in a job search.
• The Citizens Advice Bureau can help you determine if you're eligible for financial support due to a disability, neurodivergence, being a carer or based on your income level.

 

USEFUL RESOURCES:

• Sex Workers Union branch in BFAWU, Banana Milkshake, SWARM, SW Breakfasts, DecrimNowUK, ESWA, TAMPEP, davidstuart.org/care-plan, one to one support, Book: Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina.
  At your sexual health clinic you can ask to speak to a Health Advisor, who can help with your chems use queries or help you find the type of support you are looking for.

 

We want to thank JASON DOMINO very deeply for helping so much with the preparation of this document. Jason is a UK sexual health and wellbeing advocate, sex work activist and porn star. He is also a notable member of The Sex Workers Union